“Is this love…is this love…is this love, Is this love that I’m feelin’? I wanna know…wanna know…wanna know now! I got to know…got to know…got to know now!”
So, is this the REAL thing?
We don’t know about Bob Marley and the Wailers, but if those are the lines zipping around your head as Valentine’s Day looms closer, we totally get you! There comes a time in relationships when the butterflies in your tummy, that often accompany a romantic crush, start turning into a serious flutter. But how do you tell whether the person that you’re seeing is more than just a casual date? How can you be sure that your fun dates are turning into something more serious? There are the more obvious signs of a relationship getting serious of course, like meeting the parents and serious ‘relationship conversations’. But if you haven’t quite gotten to that stage yet and still need a ‘sign’ whether this is the real thing, here are 7 sure shot signs that you are in a serious relationship:
Sign #1: There’s less pressure!
When things are kinda casual, it’s a sign they’re getting serious!
You wake up next to him or her in the morning and lean in for a kiss, without worrying about what your hair looks like! If you’re stressing less about stuff like what you should wear; when he or she last texted you; if you couldn’t care less whether you have make up on or not; or if you feel comfortable to have them around even when you’re feeling really sick…it’s a sign that things aren’t that casual any more. That’s the surprising (and kinda cute!) thing about relationships…the more serious things are getting between you, the more casual your relationship gets!
Sign #2: You’re friends with each other’s friends
You’re hanging out with each other’s friends!
When you start hanging out with each other’s friends, it’s a sign that not only are you approved and liked by his or her friends, you’re also becoming more involved in each other’s lives. As a bonus, getting to know each other’s friends is a way of really getting to know the person you’re dating even better.
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Sign #3: You love hanging out together, even when you’re doing your own thing
Those long, comfortable silences? They’re a good thing!
Those long silences that stretch without the least bit of awkwardness? One of the sure shot signs that you are in a serious relationship! When both of you feel relaxed and happy in each other’s company, even when you aren’t doing stuff together or even necessarily talking for that matter, you know you have a good thing going.
Sign #4: You’re included in each other’s plans…without really thinking about it!
You include each other in plans on auto pilot
You know exactly what he or she did last week; when they have the next work trip and are jointly cussing that pesky office dinner over the weekend which won’t let the two of you hang out together. You include each other when you make plans, almost subconsciously. Even your friends expect the two of you to show up to events or places together. If you were nodding as you read all of the above, this one’s for the road! Yup, just one more of those signs that you are in a SERIOUS relationship.
Sign #5: You have a bunch of your stuff at each other’s places
His stuff is in your space…and it feels right!
You don’t really have to pack a bag any more when you plan to stay the night because you know that the stuff you need will already be at their place. Toothbrush? Spare clothes? Sorted. Deo? You can share theirs! What’s more, you’re both comfortable with each other’s stuff being around (you even like it!) and don’t get bugged or think it’s messing with your space.
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Sign #6: You discuss the future together
You know its serious when you’re looking at the road ahead, together
When you’re dating someone casually, you’re almost obsessive about not discussing the future together because that’s exactly how you want things to remain- casual. It’s totally the other way round when you’re getting serious- you start discussing the future more, maybe even make plans together, because you know the other person is going to be around, not just for a month or two, but for a long, long time to come.
Sign #7: You know things about each other that very few people do
You’ve let each other into your private worlds
Irrational fears. Secret phobias. The one thing that really cheeses him or her off. Most embarrassing moment ever. If you know things most casual friends don’t, not only does it show the two of are connected at a deeper, more intimate level, it also means you’re letting each other into your most private worlds, one of the most knowing signs that you are in a serious relationship.
If most or all of the signs above struck a chord, you can be sure you’re in it for the long haul! Did you get any signs when you were dating your significant other that were a dead giveaway that things were getting serious? Tell us!